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Some more on organizing home birthday parties!

by lavendermistwithglitter, posted in kids

Continuing on the birthday party series – “Four things I forgot to do when I organized my son’s birthday” (https://lavendermistwithglitter.home.blog/2019/02/07/the-four-things-i-forgot-to-do-when-i-organized-my-sons-home-birthday/) which was based on my learnings from LAST YEAR, I was careful not to repeat THOSE mistakes. But as is human, I made a few new ones. Here are some things I did better this time and some I need to keep in mind for next year!

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The “take for free” basket was the biggest hit

I made sure we had plenty of games to keep the children engaged, which was an issue last time. Relied on a lot of cute printable games (check out
https://www.artsyfartsymama.com/) like Bingo and Word Search, which were a hit. You can choose the Bingo or Word Search as per your theme too, there are options aplenty. This time we also had something called “poster making” where we gave the kids a theme (“save trees, save life” was what came to mind instantly), some crayons, a large sheet of paper, and that’s it, just them and their imagination. (Advantage: we had complete peace and quiet for half an hour, a rarity in a birthday party!) Later they put up their “exhibits” and I hit upon the brilliant idea of allowing everybody to “vote” (on chits) – only, they could not vote for themselves (though I suspect some of them did)! It was all exciting, fair and square, and they enjoyed.

We also listed the games we would play on an A3 paper and put it up where everyone could see it. The structure served us well, and we allowed for flexibility, taking in their opinion on which game should be played next (some tricks I have picked up learning about “community engagement” on my projects!) Pssst…we started with Monopoly however, and I am not sure this was the best decision, because it was not really an icebreaker game. Perhaps have that after something like musical statues or pass the parcel, which allows the party to warm up a bit, and do intersperse “sitting” games with the more energetic ones!

The List!

Last time I realized that prizes for games should be wrapped, hidden, and each something different. This time I followed this, wrapped them all up (in newspaper, to be “green”), but we again made the mistake of choosing different types of chocolate (sigh, not everyone shares my craze for them it seems). I guess you just have to make the effort and keep a variety of things, not just candy, because the boys soon discovered that the prize would be chocolate, and the “prize” is a big thing to keep them all engaged in the games. Some of them even gave it back! Well…you learn….:(

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These were our prizes, neatly wrapped and waiting to be won (captions courtesy 11-yr old daughter)!

On the return gifts or party favors, we mainly gave books and flower/veggie seed packets this time. I wanted to give small plants but then settled for this. Now I realize what may be a “good” gift in the eyes of parents may not be as good (read “exciting”) in youngsters’ eyes. So next time I’ll go all out and get them more fun stuff. I always say, you can judge a party by the return gifts!

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The return gifts 🤩

I made sure to cut the cake before serving the food this time, although food time is always a bit of a chaos. This time we added icecream, and the fastest selling items were maggi noodles and cake/icecream, with a focus on the icecream. Everything else I toiled (and stressed) over was again practically untouched. We messed up the fries and instead made cutlets, which were NOT welcome. I also realized that the likelihood of something getting eaten is inversely proportional to the size, and next time I will definitely cut those cheese toasts into bite sized pieces.

One last word….if your start time is 11 am, expect all kids to arrive only by 12. Some may come earlier, but the party can’t really start till they all arrive, especially in a home party where there are only a few kids. I would advance the invitation time by 30 minutes to an hour, depending on when you would like the party to begin.

That’s about all for now. I do hope you enjoyed reading!

“Always Eat A Hot Dinner” And More: 10 Rules On Surviving Travel With Young Children!

by lavendermistwithglitter, posted in kids, travel

Ok so don’t get me wrong! While I do love traveling and exploring new places, I have to admit that I end up suffering from some travel anxiety when I have to pack to go on a holiday with kids. It just so happens (always!) that just before I have to travel, someone’s sick, or work’s suddenly hectic, or there’s some other kind of stress. When I get to the destination, much of the anxiety lifts, and I find myself enjoying.

While no vacation is ever all “good” or “bad”, I find that it helps to learn from your experiences. So a little secret I had was that I would come back from each holiday and jot down what I had learnt from my experiences in a little diary. And I would refer to all of my previous lists whenever I would go on the next holiday. Over time I found a pattern to my lessons. And this time I thought – why not share my lessons with other moms and give back to the “village”. So here goes, my top 10, in no particular order:

Rule Number 1: **Always eat a hot dinner**

I found that while lunch is often skippable (you’ve often eaten a really heavy breakfast at the hotel, you are out all day, or you just feel like munching on something rather than having a full meal), one non-negotiable rule especially when traveling with kids is to always eat a hot dinner. It may just be cheese pizza or whatever the kids like, but ‘hot’ is key to keeping little throats well, and ‘dinner’ is key as well to keeping kids well!

Rule Number 2: **Carry a variety of munchies, and not just sweet ones**

Carrying munchies is of course a done thing, if you want to avoid hungry, tired, and cranky kids. What I learnt is, when you are on holiday and not perhaps getting all of your basic meals, the body craves a variety of tastes, so carrying mostly sweet/chocolate biscuits is going to lead to a situation where you actually can’t look at more sweets! So I realized how important it was to carry a mix of sweet and savoury snacks. Here too, variety is key. Think wafers of different varieties rather than just chocolate cream biscuits. Think Lay’s of different flavours, kurkure, soya snacks, nachos, and crackers (which go well with cheese spread and jam). And your own home made matthis and namak paras, which I find a God sent really.

Rule Number 3: **Always carry lollipops on a flight**

I suspect there is a psychological reason apart from the scientific one, but there’s something about a lollipop that will soothe a child on a flight, even if it works more for its distraction power.

Rule Number 4: **Buy as you go, click as you go**

OK so this is not necessarily a rule only for travel with kids, but generally. I made this because I would always return from a holiday with a bag of regrets – “I saw this and thought I would buy it later”, “oh we’ll buy it on the way back at the airport”, “it looks expensive!”. Well, the opportunity slipped and I never bought the thing. Moods have a way of deteriorating on the way back from a holiday. So buy upfront, and don’t worry how much you are spending. Years later, you still have the thing, who cares how much it cost! And yes, don’t postpone clicking. I saw a certain decoration at a hotel we stayed in recently and thought – “oh I’ll click this tomorrow!” By the next day, they had taken it down 😦

Rule Number 5: **Pack according to the destination**

So this may sound silly but it happens! This is when you go to a warm destination from freezing Delhi, say. You just can’t imagine what the weather is going to be like at the destination. But then it’s important to foresee. Check weather apps, read reviews, ask people, but don’t assume the weather won’t be different from where you are.

Rule Number 6: **Arrive close to check in time**

Yes it may be difficult to exactly synchronise your flight timings with hotel check in timings, but especially when traveling with kids, it’s a good idea at least to be AWARE. It is NOT welcome to hang around in the waiting area for hours with hungry, tired kids, waiting for your room. Makes for bad tempers and a bad start.

Rule Number 7:**Always carry the Vim!**

OK so while one isn’t exactly going to a holiday to work, I tend to be a little hyper about hygiene, boiling water and storing it neatly in washed sippers. I don’t know how much the effort is worth it, but I would still say, don’t forget your (liquid) vim! You’ll be glad for it.

Rule Number 8: **Carry the powders in Nutella jars**

So this is a rule I made when I would carry milk powder, Bournvita, Tang in sachets, and then struggle to store them using rubber bands. Now all I do is carry all the powders in neatly labelled Nutella jars. It’s convenient and amazingly mess free. Don’t forget to carry your own (IKEA) plastic plates, bowls, spoons and knives. Extremely handy and far better than asking hotel staff for extra cutlery all the time.

Rule Number 9: **Plan, Plan and Plan**

Now this is something I made up when I feel we messed up our itineraries in some visits. There’s no harm in being aware, reading up (TripAdvisor is a favourite), discussing and planning your day to day itinerary with your family thoroughly before you travel. And usually, while the kids are well, plan the major outings upfront. Like in Hong Kong, I would say do Ocean Park on the first day. And always alternate with a lighter outing. A friend also gave me a valuable tip. She said if we’ve had a hectic day, I let the kids sleep until late the next day. Then we rest that entire day and perhaps go out only in the evening.

Rule Number 10: **Don’t leave behind the devices**

Last but not the least, and this is a debatable one, but I’ve come to believe in its power, so I say don’t leave behind the devices. Yes, you are going on a holiday and there’s a lot to explore, but I’ve seen one thing and that is that when you’ve had too much of exploring, you can do with the much needed device-break to recharge yourselves. So pack those iPads and Kindles, and don’t forget the chargers 😀

Enjoy the break from routine rather than stress about it. Remember, don’t come back with a bagful of regrets! And always eat the hot dinner 🙂 Safe travels!

This blog was first published on momspresso.com in January 2018 (AND got over 1.8k likes – my very own blockbuster hit!).

https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/rashis-stories/article/always-eat-a-hot-dinner-and-more-10-rules-on-surviving-travel-with-young-children

The School Run And How To Make It Easier!

by lavendermistwithglitter, posted in kids

School mornings are never easy. That one hour of getting the children up and ready for school is a challenging , but also an important one. I think it somehow sets the tune for everyone’s day. If things are relaxed and sorted, everyone’s in a relaxed space. Here are some of my hacks for making the morning run easier:

First, set your alarm to 10 minutes before your normal wake up time. I know this is hard, and those ten minutes under the quilt especially in winter are super precious. But once you do get out ten minutes earlier than your usual timing, that ten minutes extra alone-time will help get you more calm and relaxed yourself.

Second, wake the kids by talking about something positive or something exciting. There may be a birthday party coming up. Or something exciting in school. If nothing else, just countdown to the days left in the week! That first-thing-in-the-morning talk is really key to keeping everyone upbeat.

Third, i find it helps to sort the uniforms out the previous night, pack the snacks too if possible the previous night. In our case, breakfast and lunch are provided at school, so all we pack is a “bus tiffin” consisting of dry snacks. I always pack this the night before. If fresh food is to be prepared, it helps to keep ingredients ready at night itself.

Fourth, and I learnt this the hard way, but never trust yourself for the morning. In other words, if a school project is to be packed, a book is to be put in, don’t think you’ll do it in the morning. Just put the damn thing in, even if it’s a little wet, or a little less than perfect! I’ve been through the horrible feeling of leaving a bottle for my daughter’s project next to her bag overnight, thinking let it dry, I’ll most definitely remember to put it in in the morning. It was too dark that morning, we forgot, and I’ve never felt worse about trying to be so “perfect”.

Last but not the least, and again this is a “learnt-it-the-very-hard-way” moment, when you leave the house, just check if the kid wore the school bag!! It’s happened to us that my son once walked out and reached the stop before we realized he didn’t have his bag on. Although we finally managed to procure it through a mad scramble, it was embarrassing when the whole bus had to wait for him, and his morning sure did not start off calm. So always check the bag on the child’s back!

I’m sure everyone has their own morning hacks, and I’d love to hear yours. Do leave them in the comments box. And have a good morning “run” (both the school run and your actual run/walk after the bus is gone!) 🙂

This blog was first published on momspresso.com.

https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/rashis-stories/article/the-school-run-and-how-to-make-it-easier

Sending Your Child To School Camp

by lavendermistwithglitter, posted in kids, life

Disclaimer: This blog is all about the “before” she went to camp. The “during” part was the most harrowing, for me that is! But perhaps that will be the subject of another story…

“Mama, I just can’t sleep today, I’m too excited!”, I hear my daughter say just when I’ve put her to bed at our agreed time of 7.30 pm as she needs to wake early the next morning to go to her school camp at Alwar. I hop across to her bed, and as I sit there stroking her hair, trying to put her to sleep, I think about writing this.

The last four days have been a whirl.

First the school circular with instructions on what to pack (wish it were quite as simple as that!). She needs to carry all her stuff in a rucksack, and since we don’t have a big enough one, we order one online, one of the big, trekking ones. When it comes, she wears it and twirls around excitedly, as I think – “Isn’t this too huge! Did I make the right decision?” Umm, maybe, maybe not! “But then at least it’s going to fit everything”, I think to myself. Well, we’ll come back to that a little later…

Next the clothes. We go through the entire list and pick out all the things she needs to carry. Seems too much for a 3-day trip! So, with some advice coming in from moms on the WhatsApp group, we undertake the second round, get some clothes out. But I hope she will have enough?

Next the snacks. How many to pack? “On her last trip, she went hungry, so let’s put in extra”, I think. But then we lift the bag and it’s now too heavy! There, a new worry! Fits everything but the weight! Will she be able to manage this rucksack?

“Is there enough petrol in the car? What if we get called all the way to Alwar?” I get into hyper mode, getting the tank up to full.

The next day is school. She comes back and says we need to carry separate packets of our clothes with “day 1”, “day 2”, “day 3” marked on them. Okay! Phew! Couldn’t I have thought of this myself, the “organized mom”?! So we unpack everything and re-pack it into packets, labelling them neatly. The packet called “extras” goes furthest down, then day 3, 2, and finally 1. Hooray! We’re done!

Not quite, as it turns out, because the very next day more instructions come in – carry a pencil case and notebook, and get your own morning breakfast. Ok! But I do hope that’s all now, because the bag is really full and heavy! The constant dilemma – shall we get some clothes and snacks out? Or will she need them? What if she doesn’t have enough and gets hungry? I take a deep breath and just let it be for now. At least her medicines are packed.

Finally, when we are done, or at least think we are (with just the morning snack and water to be packed the next day), we go back and find pictures on the school WhatsApp group. Some of the probably more experienced moms have packed TWO rucksacks – one with the basic stuff, clothes etc. and one with the food! So now, another worry, do I re-pack everything? “This surely seems like a more sane idea, what if her entire rucksack gets thrown in the behind of the bus! What’s she going to eat on the way then!” (Just for the record, we just went ahead with one. I packed TWO water bottles though, thinking just in case water gets finished!)

So, a long story cut short, she finally goes to sleep, we wake up at 4 am the next morning, pack in her snack and water, and manage to reach school at 5.15 am. The air is filled with excitement, confident fourth graders with “peaked caps” (that’s what the list said!) saying their goodbyes and striding in, parents chatting. She wears her rucksack, says her bye, and disappears inside the school gate in what seems like the blink of an eye. We stand around waiting, watching from a distance as the bus gets loaded, and then finally, the scene movies are made of, it’s time for the buses to depart. My husband stands on one side, my son (yes, younger siblings just can’t miss on the fun, even if it means going back, getting dressed and coming all the way back to school!) and me on the other, waiting to see who’ll be the lucky one. Yes! We see her! We stand by as the buses roll out, one by one, four in all. I wave and my heart whispers, bye bye, my doll, travel well. All the madness of the last few days vanishes in the cloud of dust the buses leave behind. She made it finally! Yay!

We go back to our respective cars. I finally also understand how my mother feels whenever I go off on my travel.

They say you go through lots of strange moments as a parent – moments that are happy as well as sad. Bitter as well as sweet. This surely has to be one of the toughest and yet most precious bittersweet moments I have gone through as a parent. Do share your story.

P.S.: Let me tell you some things I learned from this trip!

First, the decision to carry a single rucksack was not the right one. Her rucksack did get put in the back of the bus, and her morning tiffin (yes the one I made at 4 am that morning) rotted there and had to be thrown away. She shared breakfast with other friends, which of course is not a bad thing.

Sending two bottles was not required – they did get to re-fill their bottles often. It just added to the load. One ‘stringed’ bottle is all they need.

The clothes turned out a bit extra. She says ALL mothers packed clothes extra. I realize they did not change their clothes on day 1, there was no time, so perhaps that packet could have been omitted and she was good with the clothes she was wearing. But it was a great idea sending clothes in labelled packets. I believe it made things a lot easier. Snacks were not less but a little more, which was heartening for me as a mother!

As with everything, you can never be sure, but you live and you learn. Hope this helps others as they send their children to school camp for the first time. It doesn’t get easy the second time round (this was actually our second trip!), but at least you are a little wiser. Good luck!

This blog was first published on momspresso.com.

https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/rashis-stories/article/carry-two-rucksacks-when-my-child-went-to-camp

The Four Things I Forgot To Do When I Organized My Son’s Home Birthday!

by lavendermistwithglitter, posted in kids

We recently did a small home birthday party for my son with a few of his ‘besties’. I planned and planned for over a month, and everything went smooth. But here are the four things I forgot to do.

Number 4: Not to over-obsess with the food (especially for a drop-off type party).

I worried that food in the party may run less, and ended up arranging/making a lot of food and a variety of dishes. All that the little boys really cared for was a piece or max two of pizza at lunch, chips while playing (no one interested in nimbu pani!), home-made fries and coke. They all ran away to play after eating a little. Pasta, sandwiches, noodles – mostly untouched. And we still had three boxes of pizza uneaten!

Number 3: To cut the cake BEFORE the food.

Now this was a silly mistake, unpardonable after attending millions of parties, where the cake is always cut first. But in my over-eagerness to serve food, I forgot about the cake, and by the time it was cut, the kids were all too full! No one really wanted it as ‘dessert’!

Number 2: To arrange DIFFERENT prizes for each game, AND to keep them hidden.

Now that I write this, I do feel extra foolish. I did exactly the opposite. Now kids are clever creatures, and once they had realized that the same chocolate marvellous bar was the prize after each game, they were just not much interested in the games anymore ☹

And now the last and most important:

Number 1: To leave room for the unexpected.

I had everything mapped out, from the time the children entered to the time they left. I even had a chart that spelt out the order in which the games would be played. Talk about structure! However, I hadn’t really budgeted for the fact that 7-year-old boys are not going to necessarily listen. After much cajoling to play the first few games, they all went off and wanted to play Lego, cricket, keyboard – anything but the games I had so meticulously planned!

But just when I was getting upset I reminded myself that I needed to leave some room for the unexpected. Is there such a thing as “too much birthday planning”? Perhaps there is!

This blog was first published on momspresso.com.

https://www.momspresso.com/parenting/rashis-stories/article/the-four-things-i-forgot-to-do-when-i-organized-my-sons-home-birthday